Problem Solving Made Simple

핵심 요약

• Most everyday problems give way to three plain questions: what exactly is going wrong, why might it be happening, and what small thing can we try?
• Before buying, scolding or fixing, check whether you are mopping the floor or fixing the tap, because only fixing the tap stops the puddle returning.
• Problem solving is a learnable skill, not a talent, so praise the trying and the adjusting in your children rather than the first right answer.
• When your child brings you a problem, ask what they have tried before offering help, and give the smallest hint that gets them moving again.
• Before fixing anything for an upset child or partner, ask whether they want ideas or want you to listen, and respect the answer.

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1. Why problems feel bigger than they are

   When you are tired and busy, problems rarely arrive one at a time. The broken zip, the late homework, the argument about the television and the leaking gutter blur into one feeling: everything is chaos.

2. Five myths that make problems harder

   Myth one: good problem solvers get it right first time. They try something, check it and adjust, so a first attempt is a draft, not a verdict.

3. Mopping the floor or fixing the tap

   Picture a leaking tap. Mopping the floor deals with today's puddle; fixing the tap stops tomorrow's.

4. What, why, try: the three questions

   If you remember one thing from this book, make it three questions. What exactly is going wrong?

5. Hand the problem back, gently

   When a child brings you a problem, the quickest help is to solve it. It is also the help that teaches least.

6. Fix it or listen: ask first

   Not every problem wants solving straight away. When a child or a partner arrives upset, a parent's instinct is to fix: here is what you should do.